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Should you get serious?

By ghanamma
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Met someone new and thinking of getting serious? Well, you should just remember that no matter how smitten you are, actions speak louder than words. Here are some things that you should look out for. If you notice these signs then think twice...

They aren't sure...
Almost every relationship comes to the 'get serious point'. If your newfound love is confused and surprised that you're ready to get serious, then don't wait around too long...

They don't fit in your future
They avoid the future conversation. If you don't see yourself with that person in future or know that they feel that you are not the one, then don't waste your time. Getting serious after all means commitment!

They don't sacrifice
Being independent is one thing but in a relationship you have got to give a little, right? Healthy relationships don't require bending over backwards all the time, but a certain amount of sacrifice is necessary. When it comes to things like spending time with you on your birthday, it's key!

They don't tell you first
Last to learn about what's happening in your partners life? Once things are serious, you should be among the first to know about news, and they should want to come to you first.

Meet the parents?
If your new roll-in-the-hay shys away from meeting your friends and family consistently, then there are problems...

They are too controlling
Do they forbid you to hang out with certain friends, or wear certain clothes? If someone is controlling you then you have to realise they don't want what's best for you. Everyone needs to have the freedom to be themselves.

They cheated you
Whether it's cheating or a little lie, it will be hard to regain trust. Trust is key in a serious relationship.

They plan without you
If you find that someone is making plans (like moving to London) without inviting you along, then don't let yourself get too serious with this person.

Your closest friends don't like them
Remember that your friends and family know you best and sometimes it's wise to listen. Unfortunately, we often find out about how much our friends hated that person after this person is gone.

They always come first
Always have to do what they want to do but when it comes to your life they have other plans? Don't waste your time waiting for someone who's only concerned about themselves.