Eight Signs That You Are Emotionally Weak And Their Remedies

1. When you believe that every feeling you have has a meaning, or attach unnecessary value and significance to all your feelings. The remedy is that you should always remind yourself that some feelings can be untrue and shouldn’t be regarded or tagged as important.

2. When you feel threatened by not being right. You just want to be that right person at all times. If you are not, you feel bad. The remedy is to understand that your perception cannot always be correct and that your sensory organs might sometimes be incapable of processing the facts about the situation at hand.

3. When you usually compare yourself, your career, and your lifestyle to others. The remedy is to get it deep-rooted in consciousness that as different as your date and time of birth, your life journey is unique. Nobody in life will have exact life experiences as yours and that’s why you are like nobody else but you.

4. When you constantly fear pain and avoid it. You don’t want to experience any life challenges or leave your comfort zone. There seems to be no other effective remedy than making “no pain no gain” your watchword. And be in the know that when the going gets tough, the tough gets going, and that’s how life will periodically be for someone who aspires for greatness.

5. When you notice that you oftentimes recount other people’s flaws to reduce their strength. Your first observations of someone’s successes are their failures. You have a weak emotion and low self-esteem that get easily threatened by other’s achievements. To heal yourself of this, you have to focus on your blessings and focus on what you can also do better than everyone else.

6. When you always feel judgmental of everyone around you. You keep a list of things people should or shouldn’t do. The remedy is knowing that your religious, cultural, and psychological background is different from every other person’s, hence the difference in the perception and yardstick in measuring rights and wrongs in society.

7. When your ways of standing for yourself is by being aggressive, defensive, and chaotic. To prove your point you have to demean others. Doing that shows you are emotionally weak and the remedy is that you learn the habit of ultimately controlling your reactions to people's actions, knowing that they have only acted based on their level of intelligence which shouldn’t negatively affect your dignified person and composure.

8. When you oftentimes extrapolate. That is to consciously make your currently difficult life situation the overview of your entire life and believe that’s just your life (a bad life). The remedy is to remind yourself that this is not the first of its kind you’d face, the feelings of the past are gone, and no matter how long the night stays, the sun will rise. This, too, is a phase and shall soon pass. It is a bad day, moment, hour, minute, and not a bad life.

In essence, being emotionally strong is being emotionally intelligent and becoming interdependently proactive rather than reactive. You responsibly create relationship circumstances and do not let the circumstances dictate your attitudinal and behavioral output. That is the way to live in profound peace not only with people around you but with your happy and undisturbed self.