Ladies As Suya
"SUYA" as we all know is a smoked seasoned meat, sold by Hausa men at night by the roadside. Everyone who goes to a "SUYA" stand definately asks for a taste, we want to know how sweet what we are about to buy tastes.
You are in a Godly and descent relationship hoping it ends in marriage, everything looks fine, until your partner begins to disturb you for sex,and he keeps saying even if it is once, he only wants to know your limits. What do you think it is?
In this article, I'll talk about how some men try to justify their foible with a sentence that irks me. "What if she's not good in bed" The importance of this article, is to make you realize your worth, that you aren't a walk in the park, its either he leaves or he stays.
I am not an egalitarian but I should speak anyway!! It is no news that many ladies go through the misery of sex before marriage against Gods will and their will, all in the name of " I want to keep my man, I want to make my marriage work" indisputably men ought not to do so, but how about you? Why do you have to comply to something outside Gods will and your policy, something that doesn't add to your efficiency as a Lady. I think it is high time you stood up for what you want in defiance of whether the marriage works or not. Someone who cherishes Christ in you, someone who would love you for who you are is still out there obviously searching to find you and still of high hopes to find you. Therefore, do not accede to anything or anyone who tries to satisfy themselves at the expense of your believe and self veneration. Such person does not deserve you!
Do you even know what being together forever means, it means we have become one, your goal now mine and mine now yours. It means I cannot coerce you to change who you are for my covetous desires. It means I regard your credence and will never use the authority of being a man to change your mindset. I am willing to stand by you regardless of your disabilities.
I counsel that ladies should not be defined with their fragility, they are priceless and valuable, though feeble but powerful. They should not be treated like trash. Although, you should work on your weak side but you ought not to be judged by your deficiency.
If you are in a Godly and decent relationship, now, as a man, you finally encounter what you feared in marriage, do not detest, judge her or blame yourself, iron they say, sharpens iron; she is now your responsibility, make her what you want but do not go over boards, that is, do not go outside what would make God happy.
On no account should you agree for a man to satisfy his sexual urge through you before marriage. Decency is also practicable in relationships.
Oloyede Oluwakemi (Olufolahan ) contributed this piece from Lagos State University