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PEOPLE CALLED ME 'MAN' BECAUSE I DIDN'T HAVE A CHILD AFTER 8 YEARS OF MARRIAGE – IREDU

By NBF News

Rev. Mrs Nches Iredu is the President of Sisters Fellowship International (SFI). SFI has branches and many outreach centres all over Nigeria and Europe. Recently, they had their annual programme, September to Remember. Thereafter, the team paid a visit to Spinal Cord Injury Association, Amuwo Odofin. Their visit to the centre brought joy and relief to the victims as they presented 12 wheel chairs, loads of food items and N250, 000 to them.

This amiable woman of God in an interview recently said she's elated that God in this generation has decided to make her an instrument in His hand. The brief encounter with her was so revealing as she went down memory lane about her eight years of barrenness, the humiliation she encountered and how that issue turned to be a stepping-stone to her ministry.

Early Life

I loved God and got born again very early in life. God blessed me and I got married to my husband and we wedded. Normally one expects that immediately after the wedding the next would be to have a child, but after eight years, there was no issue. It's not always wonderful because in this our present society, especially in Nigeria, people always attach too much importance to child-bearing. They feel once you don't have any child, the marriage is not yet complete. Having lived a righteous life as a child of God in my youth, I thought that soon after my wedding, babies would start coming. Sometimes some people think that people who lived all kinds of life, for instance, committing abortion, are people that are victims of infertility. I never knew that kind of thing would come my way.

Within the eight years, I had the opportunity of travelling to the UK, Birmingham University to do my first and second degrees. I decided to go and study since babies didn't come, and at the same time believing and trusting God that something would happen one day.

Miserable comforters

It was not easy for us. Friends and in-laws were asking questions why I had not been able to have a child. They asked my husband whether he was sure he did not marry a man. They wondered why my husband would continue to keep me when I could not have a child since it is the essence of marriage.

People talked. There was nothing they didn't say. They called me a man but I kept trusting God because I know that He is more than able and will do it for me. And I had this song people knew me for which I always sang. It says, 'I have a God who never fails'. Somehow, I have an inner witness in me that God must answer and give me a baby someday.

Life in UK

When I got to Birmingham University to continue my study, we had this mini fellowship we attended called Nigeria Christian Fellowship. It used to have many people in attendance. Before that very time, I fasted for seven days. I waited on the Lord and decided to settle some issues with Him. I had this upholstery chair that was in my room which I believe that my God used to come. Each time I go to worship in that room I always felt His presence. One day after fasting for seven days, I said God that we would settle one thing. Why do people worry themselves if they don't have any issues? And I started thinking about it. Is it not for somebody to call them mummy, and secondly for somebody to take care of them at their old age?

As far as I'm concerned, these are the two basic things that make people to feel bad if they don't have any child. If that is the case, why should I even worry myself, after all I read the story of Florence Nightingale. She's not being remembered by any child she gave birth to and the number of children she had, but for what she did for her generation. I learnt about Mary Slessor. Hers is not how many children she had or what her children did but she is being remembered today for her contribution to her generation. I then told God that children or no children, I would want to be remembered for what I will do for you. I asked God to make me useful in my generation and let me do something tangible for Him. Let me make impact in the world. I told God that even if I don't have any physical children, may God give me spiritual children.

Let me move about all over the world winning souls for Him. And the very country that came close to my heart was Chekoslovakia. I told God that I would go to Chez and America, winning souls for Him, even if it's joining evangelical team like Morris Cerrullo, Billy Graham, or Reinhard Bonnke. I asked God to make all these children I would preach to, to receive Him as their Lord and personal Saviour. Cause them to turn around and call me mummy. If you make them to start calling me mummy, it means they will equally call me mummy when if I go to Chez, Canada, UK, Cote d'Voire, Nigeria, and I will have so many children everywhere. I told God that not only will they call me mummy but to also love me more than physical children love their mothers. That if it pleased Him to grant me long life, He should cause them to love me and take care of me at my old age. If you do this for me, I will be very grateful. By the time I finished all these prayers, my heart was pacified. It became clear to me that God heard me. I had peace and was happy.

Miracle day

Life went on. One of the days, we came together in a fellowship we had in Nigeria and people were asked to make prayer request. We were asked to come out to the centre and make a prayer request and the rest would help to pray. It was the day to pray for prayer warriors. We had been praying for people, that day was the turn of all the prayer warriors. People were coming out turn by turn with their prayer request and others would join to pray. When it came to my turn, I came out with that song, 'I have a God who never fails'. I sang the song with every certainty and assurance, and tears filled my eyes.

As I kept singing, the atmosphere changed and something started happening, which I couldn't understand. The glory of God came down that day and people started speaking in tongues. I had not tabled my prayer request but the Holy Ghost overtook me. One person came out to prophesy that my matter was settled and that I should watch out and see. So also another person prophesied that I would have a child about that time next year. Yet another prophesied that not only would I carry a baby but would carry a baby boy. This happened on April 28, 1983. After that, we all left. About that time the following year, God did as He promised and I became pregnant.

Dream comes true

When I took in it was like a dream. Every blessed day I cried, but it was a cry of joy. Each time I kept thinking whether it was a dream or reality. Sometimes, I would go to mother care shop to buy clothes for the unborn baby and each time I went there, I would pick the dress and start crying. It was tears of joy. On the beautiful day, the baby came forth and lo and behold, he was a baby boy. My joy knew no bound. Six months after delivery, I could not sleep. I cried so much that some people who knew me became worried about it. I couldn't hold my heart. Our fellowship leader would tell me to pray for anybody with infertility problem. As I lay my hands on them, he would place his hand on top of my hand and many women gave birth. After a while, God blessed me with two more children.

Coming to Nigeria

I started working in a school and I began a fellowship there for the staff during break period. We called it staff fellowship. And from there we discovered that the venue was not spacious enough for us and we decided to be meeting after school. People came with their neighbours and friends. When we saw that many women joined, we had to change from staff fellowship to sisters fellowship. From four converts, we grew to 300 women and from there we started having chapters all over. We have chapters in Enugu, Benin, Nasarawa, Aba, Umuahia, Port Harcourt, South Africa, Cote d'Voire, Ghana, Lome, Cameroun, America, London and we are opening some zones in other countries.

About SFI

Our mission is to bring souls to the kingdom of God. We organize couple dinners. I wrote this book, Marriage Could Be Exciting, Cry No More. Women are character moulders. They have influence in the family. We visit women in the prisons and send them daily devotions and beverages. We also go to motherless babies homes. This ministry is built on love. Where there is love, there is peace. We also take care of old ones and widows. We visit the blind and the destitute and give them food and clothing

Things you cannot wear

I believe in modesty when it comes to dressing. I feel that anybody can wear what she wants, provided it brings glory to God. I don't support anything that does not give God the glory because I live my life for God. There are some kind of dressing someone would wear and you will know that the person is ready to seduce people unnecessarily. The worst is calling yourself a married woman and you wear a dress that will make a man to start having an urge because of the way you are dressed.

If somebody wants to be naked, let the person be naked completely. I don't believe in deceiving people. Dress in a way that anybody that sees you will see the glory and beauty of God in your personality.

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Ifeyinwa Grace Luke | 11/21/2012 9:15:00 AM
I thank God for the gift of a woman of God like Mummy Nches Iredu
Mrs Amara Egere Nwadike | 7/24/2017 8:03:00 PM
Please pray for me i don't have children, I have been married for 5 years now please pray for me
Nnatuanya odira kingsley | 4/22/2013 11:24:00 PM
am a student of polytechnic oko i study MASS COMMUNICATION. my mother let me knw dat SFI is a place 2 be wit god. i cn nt 4get wat she told me. she said wen any tin begin 2 happening dat i should start 2 say (GOD OF SFI) dat i wil b serve.
Jo Alexander | 7/13/2013 4:35:00 PM
Mummy, you are a great example for all of us! I thank God for modem day Esthers and Hannas like.. May you love long. You have inspired me.this is an affirmation that To God, a delay is not a denial in deed, God never fails. I love your boldness and I quote " I fasted for seven days I waited on The Lord and I decided to settle some issues with Him" thank you for being you...I love you! And I hope to meet you someday. I live in USA in the state of California and I just joined SFI Northern California chapter.
Davenadis Gospel Media Aba.Nig. | 3/5/2014 3:48:00 AM
Mummy Nches Iredu,you re wndrful,i luv dat ur statement 'I liv my life for God' U re a Great woman of faith wit transgenerational impact.we luv u. From Davenadis Gospel Media.
Sis Chi | 5/11/2014 9:56:00 PM
Please O, I have a great concern about a leader of your abuja branch SFI, namely Ngozi Grace Okeke. It has become a fact that she uses witchcraft and occultic powers to destroy homes and acquire wealth. She has stolen women's husbands for this purpose and seems to be sold out for satan and is a witch. She is prominently connected to your ministry and it is scary. She needs to be exposed if indeed the ministry stands for what it says.
Anon | 5/11/2014 10:13:00 PM
Souls are being bound by the so called 'Area president of SFI, Abuja branch. Her name is Ngozi Grace Okeke. Also known as Ngozi Grace Jude-okeke. She's known to practice witchcraft... puts concoctions in men's food to control them and acquire their money and other earthly things she desire; is into other evil acts. She needs to be exposed. Please if you are a true ministry of Jesus then check her out because she is a destroyer of souls.
azugo nwadiuto | 7/22/2014 3:29:00 PM
i prefer to call her the quality in a woman that makes qualified. am an alumni of DRIC mummy's school and indeed it's an awesome xperience. luv u mommy

Amala Nwobodo | 8/8/2014 7:16:00 AM
Mummy int'l is a gentle dove whose style of teaching is indescribable. Did I say teaching? Yes! She does not preach. She teaches until you are convinced that life is a practical test you must pass before gaining admission into heaven. She does not search far for illustrations because her life is one bible whoever comes around her is challenged to read.She teaches what she does and that alone is her uniqueness. I've observed Mummy Nches for 12 years to be convinced that she is a child of God worth emulating, worth following.
Amara | 10/16/2014 12:46:00 AM
I tank God for giving a woman of God to this generation but what I am not cleared of is that why is it that God said he will use you to bless other women who are looking for the frits of womb and yet two times I was opportune to be at the convention in united kingdom to have called women who are looking for the fruits of womb out to pray for them. they cant even get close to you especially with the presence of the women who body guards you. I am really confused and discouraged about this.
oby | 5/28/2015 2:46:00 PM
Never seen mummy nches and her husband are they still together or are they having problems
Okaa Oluebube Anthony | 6/13/2015 10:11:00 PM
Mummy you are a woman of great vision, i love listening to ur words, you are indeed a woman of God
Nmesoma Ukwuije | 7/7/2015 6:41:00 AM
Mummy indeed is a great woman of God, A Teacher, a woman with a good exemplary life style. Am an alumni of DRIC Mummy's school and I am proud to b brought up by her.
Isaac uchechi.p | 10/23/2016 8:41:00 PM
My beloved mummy,you are a role model indeed,i love you mummy
Amarachi | 6/16/2017 9:58:00 PM
Mummy u are wonderfully made, more grace ma
Nneka Lawson | 7/1/2017 7:52:00 PM
Mummy Nches is a role model she has conscience she fears God and she love God too. God have used her to impact positive things into my life. I thank God for her!! Good people are like candles they burn themselves to give others light Happy birthday mum
Chinwe | 7/31/2017 4:43:00 PM
Mummy, God Bless You. This is exactly the kind of encouragement I want.
Aniebonam precious | 9/19/2017 2:29:00 PM
i really thankGod for giving our mommy this vision,she has change many souls,her words inspire me alot,when ever am in sfi am overwhelm because of the goodness of that lord,i see mysef as daughter of zion,i thank GOD for my rare gem,tantalizing mommy i love u,ur words made me who i am today
Ebele | 10/2/2017 4:20:00 PM
your ministry has made my life and marriage beautiful. thank you.
don't need name | 11/13/2017 8:31:00 AM
Ma am so sorry to say this ur vision is that wives should not respect their husbands or not to take care of the house I mean clean the kitchen since my wife jointed this ur group she doesn't do anything in house again. Try and call ur woman to order bcos they are not doing what is required of them in their homes I believe some men is still in this kind of problem. Thank you
Lilian Duru | 5/5/2018 12:16:00 AM
I attended a program organised by SFI Iyana Ipaja chapter today & there I believed that my prayer requests have been granted. I have decided to follow Jesus, no going back. Thank you my Lord and my God.
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