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NickEvans | 12/14/2010 12:43:00 AM
Hello all,

I donno which is the best place to post this, but I MUST post this somewhere that GETS good attention. Mods, please feel free to move it to the appropriate category in case you think it deserves a different category. And to the people - feel free to edit/modify anything here and please spread this article everywhere and to everyone you know.

excuse me for my informal english, u can modify it to formal or better yet, write a better version of it.

its a sad truth that many men have not spent some time mastering the art of orgasm, despite they know that this is an integral and a very important part of the relationship. sometimes, men think that they do everything right, and what compliments this thinking is that women fake the orgasm so that they dont let their men down. just read this article and you will know (if u are a man), if there is anything that you can take it from here. at the very least, u can confirm that u are doing alright.

besides, there are still some morons who dont yet understand that you r jackin off quick doent mean she's done with it too, but need to take it slowly with her. I'm not bashing anyone, but just like u learn / master job skills, please give it a serious consideration. dont get me wrong, all women have the right to enjoy an orgasm, so please give them a fair treat, dont just be selfish.

Following is a research article that I had saved sometime ago, and cannot really remember the place where it got it. Please feel free to credit the sources if you could find it. Please read it in full.


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Female Orgasms: Myths and Facts

* Anorgasmia
* Some Myths Regarding Female Orgasms
* What can you do?
* What about Vibrators?
* Suggested Books

Anorgasmia

Definition: Anorgasmia is an inability to reach orgasm and is thought to occur in about 10% of women. Anorgasmia may be either primary (the woman has never been able to reach an orgasm by any means) or secondary (an orgasm was experienced at some point in the past). It may also be global (orgasm is not experienced by any means) or situational (orgasm may be experienced in certain sexual situations but not others; for example, with manual stimulation but not with intercourse).
Some Myths Regarding Female Orgasms

There are several myths regarding orgasm. These myths can sometimes cause problems for women and their partners.

Myth: An orgasm is always an earth-moving experience and there is something wrong with a woman if she is unable to reach orgasm.

Fact: Some women have orgasms and don't know it. Some women do not experience orgasm in the sense of feeling their pelvic floor muscles contract. They do however reach a peak of arousal after which they feel very relaxed and contented, the same feelings other women experience after orgasm. By contrast, women who get very aroused and do not experience orgasm will sometimes feel "nervous" or "edgy" or even an aching discomfort in their pelvis.

Myth: "Normal" women reach orgasm through intercourse.

Fact: Only about a third of women experience orgasm regularly during intercourse. A third can reach orgasm with intercourse but need extra stimulation. A third never achieve orgasm during intercourse but can by manual and oral stimulation. Having orgasms by means other than intercourse is a normal variation of female sexuality. In the past, people thought that "mature" women had their orgasms with intercourse; you will sometimes run across an older book that has this view. However, laboratory studies in the 1960's showed that an orgasm is an orgasm no matter which way you obtain it. How a woman reaches an orgasm has nothing to do with her mental health or emotional maturity.

Myth: Inability to reach orgasm, or anorgasmia means a woman is "frigid" or that there is something seriously wrong with her or her relationship.

Fact: Women who were able to have orgasms in the past but can no longer do so may be suffering from a medical problem or a side effect from medication. Women who have never had an orgasm may never have learned what type and duration of stimulation they need.

Myth: If a woman cannot reach orgasm, then her partner is not a skillful lover.
Fact: While there are many ways a loving partner can help a woman reach orgasm, in the end, a woman is responsible for her own sexual pleasure. That does not mean her partner should not be involved. Communication between partners is very important. It is up to the woman to inform her partner her likes and dislikes in their love making.

Myth: A woman has to have an orgasm in order to enjoy sex. This myth seems to be more common among men than among women.
Fact: Many women enjoy the closeness and physical intimacy of sex and are satisfied even if they do not, or do not always, have an orgasm.

What can you do?
Relax

It is possible to try too hard. Focus on enjoying the process, not on whether or not you will have an orgasm.

Communicate

Communicate with your partner your preferences when it comes to sex. Your partner cannot read your mind.

Encourage

If you or your partner are doing something pleasurable, encourage your mate to continue.

Enjoy

Learn to enjoy and feel comfortable with your sexuality. Your current inability to have an orgasm is not a reflection of your femininity, your psychological or emotional health. Putting yourself down just makes it that much more difficult.

Fantasize

Some women have trouble concentrating during sex. If that is the case, you may wish to fantasize, i.e., thinking about something sexual may excite you and may reduce negative emotions. If you feel that you are very close to achieving an orgasm, alternate tightening and relaxing your pelvic floor muscles. This may sometimes trigger a real orgasm.

Arouse

For some couples, love making ends once the man ejaculates. Often, at this point the woman is very aroused. If this is the case, you might ask your partner to continue stimulating you with his hands or his mouth once he is finished. Some women feel uncomfortable doing this, thinking that this would be selfish or that their partner would be bored. In fact, your partner may enjoy giving you pleasure. Rather than being selfish, you are giving your partner the chance to please you.

What about Vibrators?

Vibrators, either plug-in or cordless, supply more intense stimulation than can be obtained with either intercourse or manual stimulation. They can be especially helpful if you have an illness that makes it hard to reach orgasm, such as multiple sclerosis. They can be used by you or together with your partner as part of your love making.

Online Programs

Nowadays, there are many great online programs out there that will enlighten you about the act of sex in detail. Even the people who thought they are experts in terms of sex lives had been startled when they actually discovered that there are a lot of effective things they never cared to try. Don't be shy or even feel put-off to order one of these programs. The truth is that almost everyone studies these techniques in one form or the other despite their unwillingness to let it go in public.

Since the subject is fresh for many, you might want a direction from me to choose a good program. While you must do your own research as with anything, based on tested results, I can direct you to the program at,
tinyurl.com/WorkHerUp

The modern technology has made everything instant. Just get hold of one of these programs right now and experience the excitement almost instantly, as soon as tonight. Almost all of these programs give you complete privacy and the billing will be discrete. You can also buy a recorded CD that contains the same from your nearest local store.

Suggested Books

There are several good books available with "exercises" to help you reach orgasm. These usually focus on learning to have an orgasm by yourself and then, once you know the desired manner and amount of stimulation you need, you can teach your partner how to please you. It can also be helpful for your partner to read one of these books. Women of some religious faiths may sometimes feel that self-stimulation, or masturbation, is wrong. Others of the same faith feel that since the long-term goal is to improve the relationship then self-stimulation is okay in the short term.

1. For Yourself: The Fulfillment of Female Sexuality: by Lonnie Barbach. Written over 20 years ago by a woman who ran groups for pre-orgasmic women, this book has a lot of personal stories. Women like it because they see they are not alone and they can usually identify with one or other of the stories.
2. Becoming Orgasmic: by Julie Hieman and J. LoPiccolo. A bit more clinical than the previous book, it also has exercises to help a woman think about where she learned her ideas about sex and whether these might not be realistic.
3. The Gift of Sex: by Cliff and Joyce Penner. Written by a Christian couple, this is a very frank and helpful book, especially for women who find some of the suggestions or assumptions in "secular" books objectionable.
4. L'orgasme au féminin; Christine L'Heureux, Montréal: L'Aurore, 1979.
If none of the books or suggestions are helpful, you might consider asking for referral to a sex therapist or psychologist specializing in treating sexual difficulties.


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I hope you read it in full. If you know al of these honestly to your mind, then thats great, but only you yourself can decide. In case you feel that you can learn something more but hesitating to spend the time to learn it and spend the pennies, don't be a cheapskate and don't think that your big busy schedule is going to help you as you would think. Yes, you must focus on all facets of life, but guys, all I ask you is pay serious attention to this side of your life too!

Hope this will enlighten you guys somewhat.

What do you think?