Amaechi, “Economytortion” and “Sextortion”
There is a revolution going on in the last two Centuries in Nigeria. This is not about the Industrial Revolution or any of its kind, but a Revolution instigated by certain women in our society against the men christened “women liberation”, “violence against women”, and women this and that. Due to women are lawyers, police and complainants by nature they use these nature-given tactics to wrestle the men, knowing that men are not good at talking or listening to much complain. For this reason, men will give up.
Not all the women are into this confrontation against the men or give support to it, and not every man knows the tactics these women are using. To this set of women who are not in this confrontational gesticulation by women against the men they believe that if all that these women are fighting for is to equal with the men, their names should be counted out of the loop. They believe that the chemistry of the man can never be equaled with that of the woman. So, any woman shouting to measure with the men is just going astray, but man and woman need each other for a mutual world.
This is why I beg to disagree with the position of the Rivers State Governor, Mr. Chibuike Amaechi, who said that the economy of the country was the reason women are crying and shouting for who knows what. To overrun the men? His suggestion was that the “economic imbalance” created the room for what women face in what was described as “sexploitation of women and violence against them”. This disclosure was made at the one day conference on, “Violence Against Women and Sextortion” organised by the National Association of Women Judges in Port Harcourt on Saturday 30thJune, 2012. In his words, Amaechi said: “I look at this issue of 'sextortion' from the economic realities in Nigeria. I doubt if there is any woman born on earth who wants to use her body to the detriment of herself”.
Wow! Did Amaechi really say that people, especially women, engage in immoral acts when they are so deprived of what they truly need to live happily? If this is true, then, we can say that Amaechi is being political or playing to the gallery to win the sympathy of the women. The fact is that no sensible person would want to engage or feel gravely duty-bound to engage in any kind of livelihood without actually considering the ethical inference. If Amaechi really said that, it means that he was bored by the many complaints that nature gave to women and they are using them surreptitiously without the knowledge of the men hence he gave in. And any man that does not give a listening ear to women automatically is characterized by them as wicked and uncaring. Do we blame Amaechi?
While going to school is very good, it would be better that we differentiate school from education. Some of us who are schooled are not educated in all aspects of education. This is why I must say that a child whose parents were unable to send to school, the parents could afford to engage the child in any meaningful work to learn. This is against Amaechi's stand that grown-up daughters of parents could engage is any shoddy business due to their parents economic challenges. To appease the ego of women, hear Amaechi again: “So we must agree that the economic challenges we currently face as a nation could be linked to what you judges refer to as sextortion.”
It is an aberration of the truth for anybody to say that women are exploited in Nigeria in what they called “sextortion” because even in the offices women have more legs to get whatever they want more than men, because men by nature listen to them more than. To this end, men do not most times have fair and equal opportunities as women do, therefore 'sextortion' against men is paramount in Nigeria, whereas it was not supposed to be so.
Amaechi should take a survey of the number of men and women working in offices across the country and be surprise who is sextorting who. He should not mind most greedy and evil-minded women who want to control the men and give orders on what to do and not to do. And Amaechi saying that whatever community misbehaviour people displayed in earning a living had a straight link with the country's economy poses a gigantic question: what are they in the leadership position doing to address the economic woes? No one should tell me that at least the governor and his titular House of Assembly members in Rivers have started to address the economic woes with a rather cruel Pension Bill where ex-Governors, their Deputies and all that bunch of pseudo-leaders will be entitled to 100 percent pension benefits. This act is the reason morals have sharply fallen among Nigerians as a result of social inequalities and not the so called “Sextortion”. Does Amaechi subscribe to this?
If Amaechi buttressed his point by saying that “this harsh” situation has made women more susceptible in their proposal to stay alive, because in 2011 the National Bureau of Statistics said 71 percent of Nigerians are poor, he should know that the pride and survival of any given state is based on the 100 percent transparency of its leaders; he should know that there is also “economytortion”. And this is more dangerous than the satanic poetry – “Sextortion”. What about “braintortion”, “Votetortion”, “oppositiontortion”? Just name them.
I will like to advise Amaechi that next time these women organized such conference he should talk about “Virtuetortion”. This is where every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands” (Prov. 14:1), and comes out to talk of “Equality” and all that noise meant for the trash bin. He should ask the women the following questions, according to one Nancy Leigh DeMoss: 1. Am I building up my house or tearing it down? 2. Am I investing in my marriage? Am I nurturing the heart of my marriage? 3. Do I frequently express admiration and gratitude to my husband? 4. Am I reserving the best of my physical and emotional energy for my family? 5. Am I creating a climate (through words, actions, and attitudes) that makes my husband want to be at home? 6. Am I content to be “at home”? Am I finding my “fulfillment” through reverencing and serving my husband and family? 7. Do I reserve intimate communication, looks, words, and touch for my husband? Am I giving of my emotions, attention, affection to a man other than my husband? 8. Am I meeting my husband's sexual needs? 9. Am I trustworthy? Is there any behavior or relationship I am involved in that I am keeping from my husband? Have I been totally honest with my husband? Am I fueling sensual thoughts and desires through books, magazines, TV programs, music, or movies that are not morally pure? “Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies” (Prov. 31:10). Etc.
These women's thoughts are truly not their's; their thoughts for “Sextortion” were fuelled “through books, magazines, TV programs, music, or movies that are not morally pure”. Please, when next Amaechi will speak on this topic he should tell the women to stop making sensual comments that have made many women raised shoulders high against the men which have resulted to divvies in many homes today. The girls are also teleguided by this word as “sextortion” to have a feeling of war against the boys, whereas it was not supposed to be so. Women are causing hazard of opinion in this country.
– Odimegwu Onwumere,
Poet/Author, is the Coordinator, Concerned Non-Indigenes In Rivers State (CONIRIV).
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