PLEASE WHAT SHOULD I DO TO CONTROL MY ANGER?
If a woman is displeased with her husband regarding something that he did, how should she handle it so as not to be ungrateful? Does she have the right to show it to him by ignoring him (still serve him, but not talk a lot or joke) to avoid a dispute?
This depends on the severity of what the husband actually did. It also depends on the individual, the environment, times and the understanding that both spouses have.
Sometimes, ignoring the husband will work for some, but not for others and sometimes ignoring the husband may even be detrimental and make the problem worse. It is best for the individual to use his/her discretion considering their understanding amongst one another.
I have done something wrong. My cousin is married to a man who married another woman but did not tell his second wife about his first marriage or about his two children. He didn't look after his first wife (my cousin). He didn't visit them. So I told his second wife about his first marriage and children. Now she has left her husband and he has married a third one. He is not bothered. Now I am blaming everything on myself. What should I do? Does my action amount to backbiting? Will Allah forgive me?
Respected Brother, if you approached the matter with a good intention, then you will be rewarded irrespective of the outcome.
What is the punishment for a person who causes a couple to argue and fight? My sisters-in-law always tell my husband bad things about me that are not true and he believes them. What does Allah say about this?
The case put before us is of a very serious nature. Other people getting involved in other people's affairs for the sake of causing problems is seen by Allah as worst than one committing murder. But for this to happen one needs to realise if the other party is giving information to safeguard and inform one party then it cannot be viewed in the same light. If what you say is the reality of the situation then Allah states in the Qur'an ' fitnah (persecution) is worse than murder…'
I would like to know if it is allowed for the husband to read his wife's letters or listen to the conversation when she speaks to her female friends or her relatives.
It is not permissible to listen to another person's private discussion.
Imam, please what should I do to control my anger?
Prophet Muhammad (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam) said, 'Do not get angry and you will receive Jannah (Paradise).'
He also advised that if one is angry and is standing, he/she should sit down and if he/she is sitting he/she should lie down and if he/she is lying down, he/she should make Wudu (ablution).
Allah Ta'ala knows best.
One hour a day
When Prophet Muhammad, sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam (peace be upon him), received the order to 'arise and warn', he started calling others to Islam and continued to do so, day and night, until he died. Time was very important for him and he used every minute of it in the best possible way. He would meet regularly with his companions to teach them Qur'an and to warn them from disobeying Allah. He was an example to them in speech and in deeds.
The result of this education was that the companions' faith became the most important thing for them. And when they had to choose between their home, tribe and good living on the one hand and the companionship of the Prophet, sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam, on the other hand, they chose the latter and emigrated for the sake of Allah and exemplified sacrifice for the sake of one's belief. After thirteen years of hard work and sacrifice in Makkah, the Prophet and his companions were granted victory in Madinah.
How do our efforts today compare with those of the Prophet and his companions? One year of our life has passed. How many good deeds have we prepared for the day of judgement? What did we, as individuals and communities, do for Islam? Were we distracted by our money and our children from the obedience of Allah and Jihad for His sake? Allah said: 'O you who believe! Let not your money or your children divert you from the remembrance of Allah. If any act as such, then surely they are the losers.' (Qur'an, 63:9) The Prophet, sallallaahu `alayhi wa sallam, said: 'No servant will be let go on the day of judgement until he is asked about the four matters: His lifetime: How did he spend it? His knowledge: What did he use it for? His money: Where did he gain it from and what did he spend in it? And his body: In what did he wear it away?' (at-Tirmidhee) Have we used our bodies for fasting, praying, enjoining good and forbidding evil or have we used them up by succumbing to our desires?
Muslims have to realise the importance of time: that it is their capital in this life and that it is to be invested for the maximum possible return. Suppose for a minute that every Muslim dedicates one hour a day to work for the sake of Allah. In financial terms, this would generate a minimum of 1 billion dollars a day, 360 billion dollars a year! If such amount were to be reserved for Islamic work, it would change the face of the earth. Suppose that every Muslim were to spend one hour calling others to the path of Allah: millions would enter Islam!
Muslims today need to build their Ummah and revive it. And this does not come through futile discussions but rather through work, sincere, continuous, careful and planned. We need to strengthen the body of this Ummah and protect it from the dangers surrounding it. We need to deepen the awareness of the Muslims about their identity, their history, their wealth and that they are one single nation. And to start with, we need to invest in the Muslim individual because he is the real instrument for change.
Source: The Friday Report.