WHAT IF YOUR PARTNER INSISTS ON FERTILITY TEST BEFORE WEDDING?
Lolade was Femi's classmate at the university. They were not dating, but were on talking terms. Lolade was a social butterfly who was always in the company of different campus boys. She's very pretty and from a wealthy home.
It was rumored that Lolade terminated at least four pregnancies for different guys. Femi knew but kept mute and wanted to punish her for jilting his cousin Tomi. A year after their youth service, everyone had gone their different ways , but Lolade and Femi met again in Lagos.
Femi indicated he wanted to marry her and had an affair with her. They even terminated a two-month pregnancy.
The doctor called him aside and warned that they should never try such again and that Lolade probably would not get pregnant again.
Femi kept this to himself till their plan to get married was materializing and he asked her to go for a fertility test. She eventually did it, but the result was disappointing, and she told Femi, her fiancÃ©. It was too late and nothing could be done.
Femi had to call it quits with her. Would you go for a fertility test before marriage if your partner insists?
Well, he is my fiancÃ© and after all, it is not a bad idea. But should he be certified unable to impregnate me , we shall accept our fate and move on with our lives. We shall adopt a few kids and treat them like our biological children.
If my partner insist that I should go for fertility test, I would ponder deliberately on it, but looking at it, I would not make her doubt my fertility issue, I would accept to go for it under the condition that she would also have her own test, but most times these tests could be wrong because I have seen both couple well tested okay for fertility issues but waited for 8years before having a child. In conclusion I would oblige to her request to that issue
Yeah, I have to do it , because marriage is a lifetime issue.
It's always better to be on the safer side earlier than regretting later. You know what I am talking about? If I love him, yes, then think of a way out, if he is very understanding.
It's okay by me as long as we are set to marry each other and if my church orders it.
Some churches recommend it before joining couples together. But if religious bodies recommend fertility tests, I think that enough would sink a relationship of many years.
Hmmmm. Well, it is necessary for both of us to do so , because I believe that I am okay. I don't think I have any cause for alarm or to be afraid. He might want to find some faults with me. In other words, it means we both have to go for it, so that we will both know where we are heading.
Yes, I will comply, though I will not be happy about it, because if it works out against me, he might want to quickly dump me and go for another girl. Should that happen to me, I'll be unhappy , but I will still follow him because I love him.
As far as I am concerned there is no need for fertility tests so far true love exists between us.
What if she insisted on fertility tests and at the end of the day she happened to be the victim?
Everyone has his or her past. So, let's take fate in our hands and commit the rest to God for proper direction.
What happens , if after the fertility tests, the doctor diagnoses that both of you are normal but after marriage there is no child ?
Who are we to blame for this? Man proposes but God disposes, let us just believe in God and leave the rest to God.
I will terribly feel bad with that action of his, does it mean he is marrying me all because of child bearing or what? But I have no choice than to go and run the test, because for me to want to settle down with him, it means am head over heels in love with him and ready to settle down with him.