Timi Dakolo Gives Marriage Advice, Here’s What He Has To Say!
BEVERLY HILLS, February 20, (THEWILL) – 'Iyawo Mi' singer, Timi Dakolo sat down with Genevieve Magazine recently and got very candid on a variety of issues including, love, marriage and cheating.
See excerpts from his interview below:
On his definition of love: Love is to know someone to a great extent and to be patient enough with his or her imperfections. Saying I love you is to know you for who you are, flaws and all.
On how he met his wife, Busola: I normally don't talk to girls in church but I saw this beautiful girl who was frowning. Her reaction when I introduced myself as Timi Dakolo was “And so?” Then she gave me the wrong number and every Sunday after that I would look out for her. Luckily I found her again and we became friends.
On how he knew he was going to marry her: Marriage is one of the biggest decisions you will ever make. I knew she would be my wife when in the course of the relationship I saw attributes I liked. She would stop me halfway through my pessimism and tell me to dream big. She came with a painter and changed the interior of my house because she hated the way my house looked and I would think to myself wetin this ajebo dey talk? She gave me fashion advice and she was my fondest aproko partner. I knew I would spend forever with her.
On his kind of woman: I could never marry a woman that is not going anywhere and is unwilling to learn new things. I believe there are many ways to skin a cat; there is never just one way of doing something. I also cannot marry a woman who cannot manage money. If you cannot manage your money, how will you manage our money?
His thoughts on marrying a richer woman: I do not have a problem with marrying a woman richer than me as long as she gives me my respect and listens to me. There is nothing a man loves more than the respect he gets from his wife. Women love attention but men love to be respected. You can be the boss lady in the office but when you get home, you should care for and respect your husband.
On why men cheat: They are just distracted. A certain pastor gave me a very wonderful illustration. She poured water from an old glass into a new glass and gave me to drink, after that she poured water from the new glass into the old glass and she gave me to drink then she asked me if the water tasted different. She said that is how women are. It's the same woman in different packages. There will always be a better, classier and more beautiful woman but that shouldn't distract men.
On the most important factor in a marriage: If you marry for love, love will be your driving force but if you marry for money or beauty whatever was the attraction is what you'll need to sustain it. Let love and compatibility be the driving force for marriage because if you marry for beauty, Wetin face north today go face south tomorrow unless you buy a clip to help her hang it.