My Family Says 'No' To Our Relationship

Dear Nana Ama,

I am 21 and I am in a relationship with a 23-year-old lady. We have even planned to get married in future.

The lady has a daughter with a distant cousin of mine but they broke up about two years ago because he met another woman.

Unfortunately, my father, my mother and my elder sister are all against our relationship. My lover’s mother is, however, not worried about us getting married.

Nana, what worries me most is that we love each other dearly. What should I do?

Nana, Apam.

Dear Nana,

What your family is apparently worried about is not just the fact that the lady in question had been in a relationship with your cousin but that they also have a child, which complicates the matter further.

It is not just about being in love with each other but about family values.

Going ahead with the relationship could create a lot of bad blood in the family and l think you must sit down with your family members who oppose your relationship and sort out the issues.

If you pay careful attention to their objections, I’m sure you will understand the issues at stake better.