She Will Not Leave Me Alone

By Daily Graphic
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After seven years of being single, I met this wonderful lady in 2002 and we fell in love and it was a wonderful relationship.

She was everything I had ever wanted in a woman. I am grateful for everything she has done for me inspite of the fact that she lied to me.

A year into the relationship, I discovered that she was married to a man who lived abroad. I was hurt and felt bad for being with a married woman so I told her that I couldn't continue with the relationship.

Since then I have been single and she is aware of this. She has been calling me constantly since the beginning of this year.

She has been doing all kinds of things to come back into my life. In fact she is really bothering me and I don't have any peace of mind because she is harrassing me.

I have made it clear to her that I cannot have any relationship with her because she is still married. Please help me, I don't know what to do.

Michael, Accra

Dear Michael, if you do not want to have anything to do with her, then stop playing the Mr Nice Guy role and get rid of her.

Maybe you are not firm in your dealings with her and she gets the impression that there is hope if she keeps pressing on.

You said in your letter that you cannot have a relationship with her because she was still married. Does that mean that you will become an item if she left her husband for you?

If so then let her know that if she also want to be with you then she has to choose between the two of you. She can't eat her cake and have it.

However, if she will not do so, then I guess you will have to get yourself a new girl. In that case she will see that you are very taken and would back off.

She thinks she has a chance because you are still single so go out there and get hooked.