Is temperament a behaviour?
I have been investigating in recent times to find out why some persons have intense exhibition of anger while a few others manage their temperament. The first set of people are irrational when they are angry. They can tell off their best friends without minding the relationship they have. They can say a lot of things when they are angry and you wonder if they are just exhibiting their behaviour or just their temperament.
Considering this, one may wonder if temperament is a trait some persons took from birth or something they picked along the way. To this end, I am not sure if temperament is picked from birth or aftermath attitudinal problem. Some temperaments are so irritating that you wonder if the exhibitor has some thinking faculty in him or her.
I know that some persons have both internalised and externalised temperaments. While they are experiencing internal problems such as anxiety, depression, reclusiveness and others, they pass same to other people lacing them with external temperamentally features such as aggressiveness, chaos, disturbances.
Conversely, whether external or internal temperaments, these have caused many persons their economic, political and social lives. Still causing.
Whether temperaments are features we got unconsciously as a result of family cracks from our parents or along the way, we should understand that we are at risk of not having a fair relationship with others be it romantic, platonic relationships with the same gender or opposite.
Your parents, loved ones, might not have given you the best of corporation you had wanted hence the irritating temperament you ooze out but you still have a chance to mould your behaviour, understanding that outside home there are rules and regulations.
You cannot continue to be your irritating self through childhood, adolescence and adulthood. You need a change and earlier the better.
It is pertinent we understood that many of us have reshaped our bad behaviours through reading, something our parents could not help us correct, when we discovered how those bad behaviours would affect our future socio-eco-pol life or were affecting us. Through books, we have learned how to correctly handle some situations that can trigger our temperament. Through books, we can today face some challenges projected from all cylinders without creating any enemy while doing so. This is to say that through books, we can develop emotional skills that can help us cut avoidable temperaments.
Well, we should understand that temperament can be associated to rude behaviour. Difficult temperaments create negative perception of the bearers in the eyes of onlookers or those associated with the ill-temperament. However, you still hear some persons making boast of how difficulty temperamentally resourseful-less they are.
They forgot or do not know that temperaments lead to dysfunctional marriages and friendships and relationships. Temperament has adverse effects on the bearer given that all he or she knows how best to exhibit before people is intensive temperament. Therefore, those whom the person would have benefited from or that would have benefited from him or her would avoid the person.
It is best practice that we read some motivational books to help us put our aggressive and harsh mindsets to check. This will help us in building a strong social and emotional well-being.
We should develop ourselves in order to build confidence in ourselves and in other people that cross our paths.
Positive mindset and positive enlightenment can help us in the right direction, thereby helping us to build and maintain a loving relationship with others in the ways we talk to them, think of them and associate with them. With the right behaviour, we would be building and promoting safety and security with those we care for and love.
We may be different as individuals but moulding a behaviour that accommodates others is a right decision in the right direction.
©ODIMEGWU ONWUMERE
June 1 2020.