WOULD YOU ACCOMMODATE A LOVE CHILD?
Dele met Kemisola eight years after he broke up his relationship with Ronke, his former fiancÃ©e. Ronke had a male child, Segun, for Dele. He was really devoted and cared for Kemi that she never suspected he had a secret he did not share with her.
He also did not tell his wife that he had a child from the Ronke affair, and three years after they got married, his aunt, Deborah, visited them, accompanied by a young boy. When she was about leaving, Aunt Deborah called Dele and his wife and told them Segun, Dele's son, would be staying with them. Because that was not part of the agreement they had before marriage, Kemi did not like the sudden encroachment but had to pretend all was well.
Dele still kept mute about the issue until a woman came to the house and started trouble when he was not at home. That was when Kemi knew what was going on.
As a married couple, would you accommodate your spouse's child in your home?
I will not accept such a child. The reason is that my husband would not want the child to be disciplined for any wrongdoing, especially if the child no longer has a mother.
In most cases, such children are troublesome, spoilt and undisciplined.
Secondly, the child and his mother could be working against me. When such occurs, our lives will no longer be safe.
Thirdly, the child could be depriving my children their dues in the family and he also might be seeing me as inferior to his mother.
I cannot accommodate such a child because I will not be free with him or her. I might not be able to correct the child for his/her wrongdoing the way I would correct mine without the mother raising an eyebrow or feeling bad, since he is not my child.
I can accommodate the child if my wife told me before we got married. I believe there is no saint; everyone has his/her past and this varies from one to the other. If I really love her and she is the understanding type, very caring and loving, I have to just carry the cross.
I can only accommodate the child if she told me before we married. It is always good to be prepared than being caught unawares. It is not a thing to rush into. It has to be a gradual process.
For as long as I love the woman, why won't I accommodate her child? No one knows what the future holds for him/her? People accommodate people they had never seen, let alone your wife's child.
A woman is different from a mother. I am a mother. I would accommodate the child, provided it would not cause me any harm.
As far as there is love between the two parties, why not?
If a woman was once married and had a child, any man who marries her should as well be prepared to take good care of the child because he is part of the woman. If I really love her, I would accept the child.
If I have decided to take the mother of the child as my wife, then I should be able to accept the child as well. A child that lacks parental care would definitely become a nuisance to the society and would have adverse effect on my wife and I. A child born out of wedlock is not necessarily a bad child. It is not the child's fault but the parents'.
No, I will never accept such a child, especially if the child is a grown-up because I will never sideline my children for any other.
As long as my husband informs me before we got married, I would accept the child. We are not all perfect. The child may be the one to help or assist my children in future.
I can accommodate such a child if my wife assures me there would be no problem in future. If truly I love the lady, why would I not accommodate her child?
I can accommodate such a child. If he ends the relationship with the mother, I'll gladly take care of the kid because I love my man and I'm not willing to lose him.
Yes, if my wife tells me about the child before we got married. I will take up the responsibility of training the child like my own children.