My Marital Life....part 2

A REJOINDER TO A BROTHER-IN-LAW..
My Dear Brother,
I thank you for your prompt response in your mediatory efforts...borne out of your innate kindness...and concern for fellow men.

We are both of a kind. So is Tolu. We say our minds promptly...unable to engage in deft schemes to hurt or damage other persons. Even if we sometimes hurt, it is usually a spontaneous reaction and not preplanned. But Tofunmi is strangely different. Very unlike me....not even by physical resemblance...so much so that I sometimes doubt her true paternity.

As cold and as calmly and detachedly calculating and cruel like her mother...reserving whatever vestiges of kindness she may possess for outsiders than her own kin!

She was old enough to observe her mother's rants and antics at a stage....yet took sides with that cruel woman! I had my reasons for sparing comments on her earlier. How can my own daughter with my genes allow such an incorrigible woman to mentor her into womanhood? What manner of counsel can such a woman give any young and impressionable girl?!

And she even misled her brother along....as they left my house one Sunday for church...only for Ronke to call me in the evening that they were already with her! And that was how she lured them away! No discussion with me...nothing... How can a woman who routinely physically threw Tofunmi at me as toddler now pretend like she is the caring parent and I the uncaring one? All her focus was on work and school. Her kids could go to blazes as far as she was concerned! Ha! Me? Mr kindness? Having anything to do with such a serpent would be too risky and foolish on my part.

I am so deeply appreciative of your concern. There is nothing bad....or foolish in being kind...even at a risk to one's own comfort. Just that I extended my own hand of kindness to the wrong person. And she has not changed. She is as cruel and calculating now as she was a decade ago....when we parted...possibly worse! Ten years is a long time...or nine? Even nice friends change for the worse over time. I hope she sends me her edited version of the article above within 7 days.

I should publish it as it is if she fails...
My regards to your family.
Sincerely,
Dr Tosin Akindele.
POST SCRIPT.
What particular evil propels the womenfolk to behave in these perculiar ways is left to the imagination....

Equality comes with responsibilities.
My belongings cannot be "ours" while hers just remains hers! If a man achieves financial success, all....incuding his wife would likely partake in the spoils of wealth whereas if this wealth were to be sourced through the wife, the husband would likely be subjected to utmost disdain and ridicule....or schemed out of the union for filmsy reasons!

Our statute books talk about "properties of a marriage". All items acquired by the couple singularly or in common during the course of the marriage belong to both parties! I am pretty sure Ronke Afolabi would most likely invoke this particular law were she to be going through a tenth of the suffering I go through now...and for about 10 years....and shamelessly ask the courts to compel me to give her a share of my holdings!

Pre-nuptial kids also highlight the mindsets of women succinctly. Such kids brought in by the husbands would likely be subjected to harrowing experiences by the wife who goes the extra mile to instigate their father against them! However, kids brought in by the wife are most likely to be accepted and loved by the husband just like his own.

One more thing....wives should desist from poisoning the minds of kids against their fathers.

At no time did men summon a national conference to agree on ways and means of holding women down...or demeaning them....

....theirs are simply the logically-expected travails of fellows attempting the impossible....eating­­ "your" cake and having it!

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