Don’t Marry A Man With Potentials—Stella Damasus Advises Ladies
Nollywood actress cum on-air-personality, Stella Damasus has called on ladies to be mindful when choosing a life partner has the rate of marriage breakups continues to be on the increase regularly.
According to the actress, women feel that once they get into any relationship, all is well and they say they see great potentials which is why they want to settle with the man they claim love for.
The actress stressed that before a lady should claim love for any guy, she should take out time to know what the guy's goals in life are and weigh them if it goes in accordance with the lady's plans also then the understanding can be built.
Stella noted that it is not a must that a lady must get married to the wealthiest man, but should go out with a man who has something doing and not just sitting down to be dependent.
In her words, “The one thing that I find that is the most reoccurring thing with women is, o he has potential. The truth is, we think that we just meet a man, we fall in love and we want to marry potential. We cannot marry potentials that is why we fall into the issues that we face everyday in marriages. Now one thing that I have learnt through experience to people around me is that when you meet a guy, you start to date, you start to fall in love even before you get to that point where he decides to pop the question way before then, your dating period should be a time where you get to know each other. Not what he likes or who his friends are but who he is as a man in terms of his goals in life. If his goals in life does not work with your own, there is absolutely nothing you can do about it.”
“First of all, there are some questions that I know are very important to ask when it comes to you being with a guy. You want to know what his goals are, who he wants to be but that is not enough. You must make sure that he must be doing something to achieve those goals. Another point is, what does he do? If you want to marry a man, he must not be all wealthy or big or must be perfect because there is perfect person, but he must be doing something, he must have focus, something should wake him up in the morning and get him excited to want to do something. He doesn't need to have all the money in the world, he doesn't even need to have started the business he is doing, but at least see that he is putting plans together, he is meeting people, he is going out there. How does he address himself, how does he represent himself? A man without a brand is no man to marry o, I am being very serious. Everyman is a brand in his own right even a man that wants to be a shoe maker. Not people who sit in their house everyday with their huge dreams,” she added.
She further disclosed that she once dated a man who wanted to be a celebrity but never stepped out of the house except at night where he goes to club and parties with the expectation of meeting of meeting people without branding himself and having what to sell to his potential helpers.